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3 Simple Rhythms for the Healing Power of Confession

I recently heard that we never drift toward God; left without a push, prod, or genuine encouragement, we drift toward comfort, and our often selfish desires. 

Meditating on this truth, I realize my thoughts can get me in trouble. If left to my vises, they become confessions. And if confessed long enough, they become truth.

Confessions carry power. Given time and unencumbered repetition, they become deeply ingrained beliefs. And if I surround myself with people like me, those who nod in agreement or join the bandwagon, they become truths, irrespective of their validity.

I’ve held fast to inaccurate and even hurtful beliefs; hurtful to myself and others. 

  • They are the bad guys.
  • She deserves it.
  • They’re too different; they don’t belong.
  • This group can’t be trusted.
  • They will change things too much; don’t let them in.
  • They will always hurt me, so don’t trust them.

Closing myself off to the curiosity that leads to learning and discovery, I will never develop a growth mindset without self-reflection.

Additionally, there are past confessions of who I was, occasionally rising back to the surface of my conscience:

  • I’m too slow. 
  • Not smart or good enough 
  • This is just what I do.
  • I can’t change; it’s how I’m wired.

Just because I’ve done the hard work with my counselor of uncovering lies and replacing them with truth doesn’t mean anxiety won’t attempt a coup, hijacking peace, perspective, and hope.

So, as I listen, mindful of my self-talk and thoughts, awareness of my confessions companions me.

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Our confession will either imprison us or set us free. Our confession is the result of our believing, and our believing is the result of our right or wrong thinking. Kenneth Hagin

Allowing truth to replace former lies, I’ve been experimenting with confessions using Scripture and borrowed prayers, like this one I’ve mentioned before:

I arise today
Through a mighty strength,
the invocation of the Trinity,
Through belief in the Threeness,
Through confession of the Oneness,
of the Creator of creation.

While a life-changing practice, this type of confession is only one facet of this jewel’s depth and dimension. We typically associate confession with clearing the conscience, making amends, or restoring a relationship.

I recently discovered this type of confession is healthy and essential, for a few reasons. 

When I rarely practice confession in my relationships, I chronically acquit myself of wrongdoing in conflict. But if I look inward and reflect, I typically find ignorance or arrogance. 

A soul does not benefit from…confession if it is not humble. Pride keeps it in darkness…(The soul) puts on a mask and avoids everything that might bring it recovery. Mary Faustina Kowlska

Psychology Today reports, Some people have such a fragile ego…admitting…they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening…(So) they literally distort their perception of reality to make it less threatening. Their defense mechanisms protect their fragile ego by changing the very facts in their mind, so they are no longer wrong or culpable.”

Do you know someone who’s rarely wrong in their estimation? Or what about the person of whom others say they are seldom wrong? 

These people unknowingly or intentionally surround themselves with “yes people”–people who agree to avoid conflict or retaliation. 

I’ve both known and been the person who resists being wrong. My fragile ego wasted no time launching defense missiles to cover insecurity. 

This probably stems from beliefs and patterns set in youth. I often felt less intelligent than my peers. Allowing these thoughts too much influence, I succumbed to the lies they whispered.

But, if I value my relationships, carving out space for reflection is important. If I see old patterns re-surfacing, confession is the logical conclusion.

Few things accelerate the peace process as much as humbly admitting our own wrongdoing and asking forgiveness. Lee Strobel

Of course, this goes without saying for the most important relationship, the one with my good friend and Savior, Jesus.

Unfortunately, years passed before I understood the necessity and power of confession, not fully understanding the balance of grace and truth. 

Once I discovered the joy of regular confession, I found freedom: a lightness and ease my soul long craved. Confession keeps me present to God’s truth, beauty, and goodness.

Now, I try to make space for regular confession with my Savior; although it doesn’t happen daily, I keep at it!

Friend, is there a piece of your soul “off limits” to the Spirit’s gentle conviction and discernment, a space left untouched by the wisdom of confession, either in your relationship with God, others, or yourself?

Forgiveness is always free. But that doesn’t mean confession is always easy. Sometimes it is hard… It is painful to admit our sins and entrust ourselves to God’s care. Erwin Lutzer

But that’s where His lavish grace comes in! So this week, spend time reflecting, then ask Jesus to shine His healing light of wisdom into the dark, painful spaces that make confession difficult. You’ll find a lightness in your heart and an ease in your soul.

I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly. Matthew 11:29

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  1. Chiquis

    This was so good! From beginning to end, it spoke to me. Thank you KC!!!

    1. KC Edmunds

      Chiquis, Thank you so much! I am so grateful it spoke to you. You are so dear!
      Love, KC

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