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Advent – A Christmas Journey to Hope: When Confusion Causes Doubt, Pay Attention to Your Dreams

Are you clouded in confusion and doubt, unsure of your next steps?


He collapsed into bed, the day’s events leaving him in confusion and brokenness- “Did I mistake God’s voice for my own choice when I favored her above the rest?” 

Are you unsure of your direction in life or your next right steps? Does rugged wilderness stretch before you where you once thought a sure path existed?

Doubt to Hope

Mary asked if she could speak to Joseph privately.  His heart beat a little faster as he hurried to her home. While they walked together, she relayed all Gabriel had said, knowing what he foretold had already come to pass.

Joseph’s mind reeled. “Perhaps she was abused and so ashamed she felt this facade was her only option, or was it a cover?” 

Full of confusion, doubt and heartbreak, Joseph questioned every choice leading to this moment. He was so sure- her virtue, purity and love for her Lord left him without question, so he thought. 

They were a perfect match, until this moment.

Joseph was in the predicament of the century with humanity’s salvation hanging in the balance. 

Walking her home in silence, Mary feared confessing the events to her parents without Joseph’s support.

Her parents were dumbfounded- ashamed and afraid jointly. After chiding Mary for such a falsehood, they turned to Joseph, knowing his rights as her fiancé. 

Joseph could have her stoned by law, but he had already determined he could not injure the girl of his dreams.

He would divorce her quietly, sparing her life, but he could do nothing for her dignity. Disgraced as a single young woman with a child, her life would be forever tainted by shame and rejection. 

Anguish and tenderness welled up simultaneously in Joseph’s throat. 

Confusion and doubt

After a brief discussion with her parents, he slipped away into the depths of his own grief. 

That night, he finally fell into a fitful sleep. 

Joseph, son of David,” 

He stirred restlessly.

Do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife. For the child within her was conceived by the Holy Spirit. And she will have a son, and you are to name him Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” (Mat.1:20-21)

He awoke with a start, knowing this was nothing his imagination could conjure, even in his dreams. 

Both joy and grief flooded his soul just as Gabriel’s light flooded his room; he could not wait to beg Mary’s forgiveness. 

“Mary! ‘And she will have a son, and you are to name Him Jesus.’”

“Joseph! How did you know?” 

After a brief embrace, they quietly discussed matters. He would marry her quietly, and she would remain pure until after the birth.

Joseph had Gabriel’s intervention, but what do we have to clear the confusion in the chaos of our circumstances? 


I have seen a counselor for 2 years now, and she is honestly the wisest person I’ve ever known, both confronting and comforting me with the truths from God’s Word.

And, we have a WONDERFUL Counselor who offers us infinitely more!

He will give when we ask, seek and knock (Mat.7:7), He will answer and tell us great and mighty things (Jer.33:3), and will give generously when we ask for wisdom (Jas.1:5). 

Yet, when confused and weary, we forget we have an enemy who…




So we find ourselves in the dark. But we can reach for the light. Jesus promises- 

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you.” Psa. 32:8

We are not told whether Joseph called out to God that devastating day, but knowing he was God’s choice of father to His Son, I believe he did… and the angel was sent in response.

Where do you need clarity to abate confusion, dear one? 

We have a Wonderful Counselor who desires to give the good gifts of wisdom, knowledge, understanding, discernment, direction.

In confusion comes clarity when we connect intimately with Christ.

Lean in, listen, linger and long for Him. Dream with and delight in Him.

Joseph’s path was not easy, but he trusted the Lord with his dreams that night. Won’t you?

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psl.37:4

Dream a dream so big that unless God intervenes it will fail. Hudson Taylor

*Photos courtesy of The Nativity Story movie and

This Post Has 7 Comments

  1. Julie Dibble

    Yay! K.C. I think I found the way to follow your blog. I am excited. I have been all over the place with health and financial issues. May God bless you as you continue to glorify Him with your words.

    1. KC Edmunds

      I am so glad! I have been loving your Advent posts!

  2. Juliana

    Wow what a wonderful site! I love how you chose advent to write about. I have felt a longing for it this season as well and I love to find commonalities between other writers.
    You shifted my heart into a different perspective, and I can’t wait to read more.
    God bless!

    1. KC Edmunds

      Juliana, You have blessed me in finding a kindred spirit! I pray Jesus reveals more of Himself to you in 2021 as you seek to find His peace and purpose for your life. Jesus, show Juliana Your glory! Happy New Year!

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